"They are more of a challenge (than non-autistic children), but I still feel that they change my life, and I like challenges" she said.

She ran into one such challenge when she first brought Lucas to religious education classes, and the instructors did not know how to teach him. To address that, she started attending every Saturday session, guiding the teachers on how to interact with children with autism.

Now, Rocha said, Lucas is in his own class, and the program "bought all the materials to work with him" and will begin its own training sessions.

She said the priests where she attends Mass, Madonna Queen of the Universe Shrine in East Boston, also provide assistance, such as telling attendees at Masses that the boys are "very welcome" in the shrine and explaining their condition.

The priests also included Lucas in some of the shrine's recent activities, including washing his feet on Holy Thursday and inviting him to dress up as St. Joseph on the saint's feast day, March 19.

Even so, she said, others who attend Masses there sometimes do not understand or do not have the patience to deal with Lucas and Raphael.

Fernanda said she and her family sit in the same pew every time they go to church as it helps relax the boys, but one time another woman was sitting in the pew.

After the Rocha's sat down next to her and the Mass began, the woman grew "so uncomfortable" and began making loud sighing noises. At one point, Rocha said, Lucas accidently sat on the woman's coat, and she went so far as to push him off of it.

Fernanda, mindful that she was in church, held back from saying something to the woman, and the priest made a point to explain the boys' conditions at the end of the service.

While she said that type of reaction bothers her, Rocha said it's "not keeping (her) away from the Church."

Rocha said that in addition to attending the Autism Study Committee, she also runs a support group for mothers of autistic children, and has been doing so since 2010.

The group began when Lucas was around three years old, after Rocha fought to get him into a full-day schooling program when Lucas' school would only offer her a half-day program.

Frustrated, she sought external help, someone who might advocate for her and her children, but found very little.

"But then I learned, if I get the information and teach myself how to advocate for them, I can do a better job," said Fernanda.

Soon afterwards, she said, "God started to talk to me," and she had an idea to form a support group.

The group, called The Special Gift of Being a Mom, focuses on teaching mothers more about autism, how to raise autistic children, and how to advocate for them in places like schools.

Originally, the group met at her house, but as more and more people began attending, it moved to the Madonna Shrine. Rocha said people from all over the state, and even sometimes from places as far as Montreal, Canada, have attended meetings.

Throughout all of her work in the autism community, Fernanda has kept a positive attitude towards her children and their future.

She expects them to make Confirmation, and said she will readily support their future decisions in life.

"I pray a lot for them, every day, and I just ask for (Lucas) and Raphael to be happy," she said.

She hopes that her work, particularly the work of the Autism Study Committee, will make parishes and religious activities more open to her sons, "because they want to go."

"That's my dream, she said.

Families who are impacted by autism and wish to inquire about programming for their parishes can contact Robert Kavanaugh of the Office for Persons with Disabilities at 617-746-5791.